Out of Options


In my last post, I mentioned I had 2 options in life but I only wrote about 1 of the options. When my husband read the post, he mentioned it to me. I don’t believe in coincidences and I believe I didn’t mention a second option because, for me, there is no second option anymore. Of course, the second option is to continue on as we’ve always done. I’ve hit bottom, so to speak, and I am no longer willing to carry on as before because I like having energy and feeling well. I like being excited and joyful about life. I find most people like to have energy, feel well, and be excited and joyful about life.

I’m in the process of developing a website. I know what I want my site to cover and I have experience in what I desire to accomplish. I want a site where people can go to learn how to love themselves by releasing judgment. I could list a whole lot of negative behaviors but the vast majority boil down to judgment. I believe we all know how to love ourselves so my job will be to help people discover what they already know. I feel we are born knowing a lot more than we are given credit. Just because we can’t talk doesn’t mean we don’t have anything to say. It’s the same with animals. They are not stupid. Just because most of them don’t talk in the language we learned, they all talk and they are very opinionated if someone listens. However, they, like with children, often learn no one is listening so they quit talking or trying to get anyone to notice what they need. This changes, like with children, instantly as soon as someone talks to them and lets them know they will be heard. Also, on my website, I plan to teach people how to care for themselves. I don’t mean health & diet. I mean how to disconnect, energetically, from people who are dragging them down, how to quit giving parts of themselves away, and how to tap into their inner ability to heal themselves. Of course, all of this requires people to be willing to take complete responsibility for themselves.

Taking responsibility for oneself can be challenging. Our society reinforces that everything is happening “to” you. Other people and situations are causing you unhappiness:  you are not thin enough, you don’t have enough money, people at work give you too little respect or too much responsibility, you must answer your phone every time it makes a noise, things will make you happy, etc. Our society says to always look for what will make you happy in the external world. However, the truth is the only way we can ever be happy is to step forward and into our own lives, examine the hard truths about ourselves, be vulnerable and let other people know our challenges, be willing to open up, let the world know who we are or discover (for ourselves) who we really are and share it with the world.

I know you’ve probably heard many times how we each have, within us, something valuable to share. And, I know many people don’t feel they have anything valuable within them. Today, I read a blog by Andrea Tung where she said, “Your Life Path is the path to wealth and success. When you commit to serving your life purpose, you will unlock all the wealth and success you’re meant to have. The universe will open up to you, and you will be connected to the divine network. Otherwise, your life purpose will become your life lesson and what you struggle with for your whole life.” Here is the link to the entire article: http://us2.campaign-archive2.com/?u=af5d7bf07a01716e1356616e2&id=84dab555d1. The last sentence is the one that hit me so strongly. I knew, intellectually, that every time we react to something around us, we are meant to learn something about ourselves and resolve our issue. But, for some reason, it had never occurred to me how not resolving those issues would lead to a life of struggle. It’s so clear now. And, this simple recognition of something I always “knew” into something which is emotionally clear to me is why each of us has something valuable within. Andrea was able to articulate a point in a way which touched me when all others who have made this same point have failed to connect with me on an emotional level. We have to understand things emotionally before they become part of us.

So, the key to having energy, feeling well, and being excited and joyful about life, is to be willing to step into your life and begin challenging yourself to walk through the judgment, resentment, frustration,  all forms of judgment and do the work to the point where you no longer react. While my site is not up yet, I am willing to help people (theresesandhage@pobox.com) begin to walk this journey. Remember, I am here to help you help yourself.

About tsandhage

I blog about my journey towards personal growth. I have been extremely ill and have been fortunate enough to find some recovery. I have taught College level computer classes, been a Massage Therapist, and a Feldenkrais Practitioner which is someone who works with the brain and nervous system to help people find more ability to function and live their lives well. Currently, I live in a RV and travel. I'm on a journey to find out more about myself. I also do photography, write, and have been married over 30 years to my marvelous husband, Jeff. I hope to post once per month. I will share about my life here. I hope you enjoy your time here. I also have a FB Group called "Therese Sandhage" where I put out daily quotes and do my best to encourage the best in all of us and a FB Page called "Gr8 Life" where I talk about what I'm doing in my RV life.
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